Dear Chela: Marriage. Kids. Building a Business. How can I find sanity and sleep?

Surviving. Sustaining. Growing. Where are you at?

In this Dear Chela episode, a reader asks how to balance a full family life with a full and growing business.

First, I want to point out that survival mode isn’t a bad thing. It’s valid. It is a state that we can find ourselves in. I offer up some practices and ways of playing with your roles to start shifting out of, or surrendering to, survival and into a more spacious life.

Do you have any tips on how to navigate these waters? This is a great conversation to have in the comments.

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  1. I like your idea of taking turns with responsibilities. And I have some experience with that as well.

    My suggestion would be to rotate the care of the kids. I personally can’t focus on work and be the kind of parent I want to be at the same time. I do better when I know my kids are completely the responsibility of their dad while I’m at work. (I work weekends while he gets the kids, and they are with me during the week while the kids and I homeschool and hang out.)

    So in this couple’s situation, perhaps they could do a one or two-day rotation between kid-care and business–depending on how much the other can be away from the business.

    Additionally, if I were them, I would hire an assistant for the business–perhaps a teen homeschooler as an intern.

    I love your videos. Thank you so much.

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