Dear Chela: I’ve lost my passion. How do I get it back?

What’s my passion? Where did my passion go? Can I re-ignite a fizzled passion? Why did my passion for this disappear when I tried to make it a reality? (short answer: because dealing with reality is hard and sucky.)

If you’ve ever tried to make the leap of turning what you’re passionate about into a vocation only to hit the wall of- I don’t like this anymore- this is for you. It’s the classic tale of Sarah the pie maker from the E-Myth. Open the bakery. Baking pies is sucky. Can you fall in love again?

Let’s chat about it…
Oh, and here are the links to the two books I suggest. But really, folks, these aren’t suggestions, they’re required reading for anyone wanting to make stuff. The War of Art and Do The Work. Go get ‘em or read ‘em again.

What about you? Have you ever lost passion for something? Were you able to reclaim it? Have you turned your passion into your life’s work? What’s your experience? I’d love to hear about it on the blog.

Have you got a question you’d love some insight on? Ask me here.



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  1. Colleen says:

    That was incredibly well spoken … thank you. I have struggled with this for 3+ years … and it started with the comments and attitude that I should “make money” with my passion. Well … that stopped the passion … because business and marketing and selling and … is hideous to me. I almost feel like I’m asking favors to sell what I do … and I hate that. I have much to get over, but this was a good start … thank you for your clarity.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    Yes, yes, yes. This resonates with me quite a bit and I have actually had that quote rotating in my mind for the past few weeks. I think you’re right, in that “it’s in the doing”. I think this confusion comes from three things (I’m guessing)…

    1. Not knowing if this is what I want anymore or what makes me happy (which I can only find out in doing).
    2. From the desire to have some stability in life (as Colleen mentioned above)…but for me both financial and the ease of day to day stability – as this path is very unpredictable.
    3. And also from feeling just tired of the work after 12 years of doing it (which I can really only either accept or get through in the doing…right?).

    I have had “The War of Art” on my reading list for oh…I’d say about 5 years now…so I guess it’s time to pick it up! Thank you for your insight Chela! If you have any new insight with these additional specifics feel free to let me know. You are so incredibly insightful and wise. I am grateful that you were generous enough to answer my question. 🙂

  3. Elizabeth says:

    Oh and in addition to my comment above, YES, sometimes the works feeling grueling and takes me out of the actual reason I started in the first place. Specifically, the marketing aspect and feeling like I have to be “on” all the time (the perfectionist in me). It also is such a competitive industry that it feels nearly impossible to achieve anything, which puts me in the place of “what’s the point?”…I guess that can stop a passion in it’s tracks. I like the idea of keeping the REASON/WHY at the forefront through these tough thoughts and moments. If I can stay focused through that, then maybe the passion will override the fears.

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